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In the past 3 years, my family and therefore, I, have taken up skiing. Outside of a short group lesson the first time I went back, I haven’t had any teaching. Being my usual obsessive self, although I prefer the term “lifelong learner” I have studied videos online about skiing, read up on skis and boots and how they are supposed to fit, and bought some boots and a helmet. Skiing is stupid expensive, and lessons even more so. There’s a really good reason season passes exists- it makes your cost per visit about half.
The decision not to further pursue lessons has caused a bit of a mental problem for me. I like being coached. I like someone telling me what I can fix to become better at something. I have been coached in all my athletic endeavors for as long as I’ve been doing athletic things (which is my life, minus the 10 years I didn’t between age 25 and 35).
There have been a few times where I’ve lifted weights and recorded myself using my phone. When I was playing roller derby, there were always recordings of bouts to watch and obsess over afterwards. You just can’t do that when you’re skiing.
The other really awkward thing about skiing is the forced break that you have to take when there isn’t any snow. Every year I go back to feeling like Bambi on ice.
This year, we moved to Colorado and my husband bought us season passes to the nearest ski area without even asking. We went skiing for the first time in the Rocky Mountains on New Year’s Eve. This ski area is so much bigger than anything I’ve ever been on- and apparently it’s one of the smallest around.
There are 3 peaks.
See the series of runs to the left? The far left? That’s the one I stuck to for 3 full visits. Finally, I got up the courage to get on one of the middle slopes.
My 13 year old daredevil son went with me. It doesn’t help that the lift up to those middle runs takes about 10 minutes. 10 minutes of pondering your mortality. Sometimes longer because it stops every now and then.
I was a nervous wreck. I was sweaty- not because I was working hard, but because I was FREAKING OUT! I was going to break something. Or fall and not be able to get back up. Or fall in front of someone and cause them to break something. Or hit the trees. Probably that. And break something at the same time. And maybe hit someone at the same time.
I stopped about half way down. Not because there was a logical place to stop. Because I needed to talk myself into finishing it. I mean, there was no other way but down. I had to go there. I got all the way down, in one piece, and I didn’t hurt anyone else. But I went back to the beginner slopes and I stayed there.
The next time we went, I did the same thing. Same run. One time. Then went back to my comfort zone.
The next time we went (5th visit), the 13 year old directed me to a new run on the middle slopes. It was a little easier. Still difficult. Still a little stressful. But halting, I began to flow like a tiny stream after a light rain shower.
6th visit- I tried a few more runs. Still avoided the ones that looked scary, even if they were intermediate. Went on the ones I knew. Mostly stayed to the hill on the left. But the stream grew stronger.
7th visit- I spent most of the morning with the 9 year old. He sticks to that hill on the left, too. But he wanted to try some more advanced runs, so we went on the harder but shorter ones on that mountain. I was feeling pretty good. Things were going well. We ate lunch and I decided to hit the bigger mountain.
First run, so smooth. Second time I went on a harder run- still smooth. Third time I chose a run that I had been avoiding because it “looked hard.” Instead of flowing like water, I said “trust yourself.” If someone was next to me they would think I was crazy because I was saying over and over “trust yourself trust yourself trust yourself trust yourself.”
Then I went on another run. Another one. I lost count. I was skiing. I trusted my body to do the right thing. I didn’t wait for someone to tell me how to fix it. I didn’t think about if I was doing it right. I responded to obstacles at the right time and in the right way because I knew what to do. It was exhilarating. It was one of the best feelings I ever had. I wondered why I had never done it before. How much more fun could I have if I wasn’t nervous about technique or mechanics but instead just trusted myself to respond appropriately?
And then I wondered about how much this applies to my non-mountain life. How many times have I waited for feedback instead of trusting myself to know what to do? Or I listened to the feedback- and I didn’t trust myself and I made what ended up not being the best decision for me.
There are no expectations of me on the mountain except that I can handle myself on whatever slope I have chosen. There are no real expectations of me in life except that I can handle myself in whatever task I have chosen. And so I need to trust myself.