Value 1: If you want your kid to go to a good school, be a good part of the school community.
We sold our house in a good school zone. We may have jumped the gun, as now my husband doesn’t have another job and we’re not moving anywhere, well, we are, to another residence in the same area.
Except that we didn’t jump the gun because our savings is now the money we made off of the house, which we may need if my husband can’t find another job. My teacher’s salary only goes so far- especially when you have 2 boys who have decided to grow out of their clothes and shoes and need the food to sustain that growth.
Currently we’re in a short-term rental and the school zone we are in isn’t very good. Instead of staying there and not going through the hassle of moving, we’re moving. So I’m not upholding this value of working toward making a mediocre school a better school. In fact, we are going to move to an excessively tiny apartment in order to keep our oldest at his middle school and our youngest at a neighboring school. Which are good schools, even if I’m not involved in them.
Value 2: experiences are more important than things.
Last night, I cried many tears over the fact that we didn’t even have to move furniture in order to put up the Christmas tree in our old house. In the apartment that appears to be the place we’re moving, we won’t even have room for a Christmas tree.
A Christmas tree brings a new paradox to the experience/things value. It’s both. I mean, you can celebrate Christmas without it, but I love a good tree. It’s part of the experience.
This apartment is like living in New York at a quarter of the price but without the good restaurants, shopping, and culture. The front door opens to the sidewalk, 3 feet from the street. There is no porch. It is small. I feel confident that when I get out of our queen size bed in the morning, my knees will hit the wall.
It’s so small, we’re looking into building lofts. For everyone. Luckily, we like to do woodworking stuff and we like it more the more that we do it. There’s such an awesome feeling of accomplishment when you build something.
So this value, experiences, not things- is being tested. But I think I’m coming out on top. We’ve chosen a small apartment in the school area we prefer for the boys. It’s about $350 less per month than all other rentals we have looked at. And we’ve discussed going on vacation over Christmas so we don’t have the sad lack of tree hanging around. But this apartment is smaller than the finished basement at our old house. And I’m struggling with that.
Experiences: better schools, vacation together… instead of a bigger house/apartment for our things.
Right now, I’m 1 and 1. Every win counts. Can’t let the haters- and by haters, I mean myself – get me down.